I’m no expert at parenting. My life plan was not to be a mother; I use this as an excuse whenever raising offspring is difficult.
Still, I care about my kids. I care that they aren’t psychopaths or sociopaths. I care that they know how to cook, clean, and respect authority. They’ll definitely put the seat down.
Training my spawn involves a lot of strain, some of which comes from doubt:
Am I doing the right thing by making his friend send him home to finish a job?
Should I have yelled when my sweet, little pre-teen gave me attitude?
Was that too harsh to make him walk to school because he slept in and refused to get ready on time?
(In case you wonder at the masculine pronouns, I have all boys.)
I thought about the fine line of parenting today. I believe I thought about it the third time I prepared for vocal conflict with my most difficult son.
Me in the driver’s seat, patiently, “So, you threw the carseat into the back, yet say it’s #4’s fault because it hit his head before hitting #3?”
Him, mimicking my patient manner, “Yes. #4 made a dumb decision to climb over the seat. If he hadn’t done that, #3 wouldn’t have been hit.”
Believe it or not, this exchange went on for a good ten minutes. He refused responsibility for the thrown-carseat injuries; I refused to let him dodge said responsibility.
The Line here is Respect vs. “pick your battles.” Almost all of my lines are Something vs. “pick your battles.” My choice to engage (or not) goes back to that no-sociopath thing.
I know not all of you have children -at least, not currently. Whether you have or not, have you felt the strain of walking a line? What did you choose? Was it worth it?
Here’s what went down this past week:
Wednesday, October 16: Wrote “Where, Oh Where Should My Blogging Go?”
Saturday, October 19: Announced the 48th Weekly Terrible Poetry Contest. The theme is the Old West. PLEASE ENTER!
Sunday, October 20: Shared Carrot Ranch‘s 3rd rodeo. Another one’s coming tomorrow!
Also wrote “The Wife Stands Alone” for Pensitivity’s Three Things Challenge.
Monday, October 21: An inspirational quote by Dieter F. Uchtdorf.
Tuesday, October 22: “Since the Bombs Fell: One,” the first in a dystopian series.
Wednesday, October 23: Today.
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