I’m a Mormon, So…

I’m a Mormon, so I believe in not masturbating, fornicating, or committing adultery. As mentioned before, no immorality.

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This promise falls under the law of chastity.

Chastity is sexual purity. Those who are chaste are morally clean in their thoughts, words, and actions. Chastity means not having any sexual relations before marriage. It also means complete fidelity to husband or wife during marriage.

LDS Student Manual, “Chastity”

Sexual purity is very important. We’ve been given a physical body in the image of our Heavenly Father and have been told to keep it sacred.

So …why is sex okay for Mormons?

[Because] [p]hysical intimacy between husband and wife is beautiful and sacred. It is ordained of God for the creation of children and for the expression of love within marriage.
…Sometimes people try to convince themselves that sexual relations outside of marriage are acceptable if the participants love one another. This is not true. Breaking the law of chastity and encouraging someone else to do so is not an expression of love. People who love each other will never endanger one another’s happiness and safety in exchange for temporary personal pleasure.
When people care for one another enough to keep the law of chastity, their love, trust, and commitment increase, resulting in greater happiness and unity. In contrast, relationships built on sexual immorality sour quickly. Those who engage in sexual immorality often feel fear, guilt, and shame. Bitterness, jealousy, and hatred soon replace any positive feelings that once existed in their relationship.

LDS Student Manual, “Chastity”

Breaking the law of chastity happens. Since it’s a serious sin, one must talk to his or her bishop as part of the repentance process. Depending on the severity of the sin, the errant member may also need to attend a court; the court may then decide to disfellowship or excommunicate the member.

Don’t worry -a former member of the LDS church may reapply for membership after repentance and the recommendation of his or her bishop.

©2022 Chel Owens

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We Mormons are officially members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and are to drop any name but that. Since many recognize the nickname of ‘Mormon’ and it works with the alliteration so well, however, I will use the term.

My other note is that I will keep to official doctrinal practices. I will add my own application of them, especially in response to comments.

My final note is that I LOVE discussing anything I write. Don’t be rude, obviously, but any and all queries or responses are welcome.

My final note beyond the final note is that I do not seek to convert anyone. I ought to, but am motivated by forming connections, answering curiosity, and straightening pictures. So, you’re safe.

24 thoughts on “I’m a Mormon, So…

  1. masercot April 27, 2022 / 2:34 am

    I waited until I was nineteen so I deserve SOME credit for that…

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    • Chel Owens April 27, 2022 / 10:41 am

      I only had Kevin, so I get credit for that. 😉

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  2. obbverse April 27, 2022 / 2:45 am

    In my humble personal opinion rules and regulations and abstinence leave the best of well intentioned couples not so much feeling hopelessly romantic as frustratedly neurotic. Ramping up the randiness to fever pitch when you’re in your prime of life is often more than poor flesh and blood can take. Succumb, and there we have it; sin, guilt, fear, recriminations anyway… There should be a happy medium but the elderly elders and old doctrine say ‘nope.’… Just saying.

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    • Chel Owens April 27, 2022 / 10:46 am

      Hence, our decisions just before marriage. You make a valid point; however, as with most laws and suggestions to be more open with said laws, abolishing all is leading to broken lives and less happiness. Perhaps we need to give people a few more tools before shoving them out of the nest.

      I also think there’s benefit to self-mastery-type skills and building of character and blah blah blah … plus a plug for repentance and personal growth.

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  3. M April 27, 2022 / 4:30 am

    This is harsh and fascinating at the same time. Because orgasm is a pleasurable thing, I personally would have found it nearly impossible to have waited till 43 to have an orgasmic release. I will say though this line “Sometimes people try to convince themselves that sexual relations outside of marriage are acceptable if the participants love one another” strikes a chord with me. From age 19-43 I had three sexual fornication partners. (unusual for a man but I personally only wanted to do that act with women I was in love with) At 18, my first girlfriend broke up with me because I didn’t fornicate with her. Between 11 and present day self pleasure has made its way into my life (even in married life which also includes mutual) between 18-present day I’ve done other acts of pleasure including kissing with 10 women total.

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    • Chel Owens April 27, 2022 / 10:48 am

      See, and my counselor has a big beef with how some people have grown up in the LDS church because they are too uptight to orgasm even in marriage. I agree about the need for it and for the even greater need to do so within a secure relationship.

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  4. Nope, Not Pam April 27, 2022 / 4:56 am

    I’d think this one might be a bit of a breaking point for me. I cheated on my husband, I regretted it, but it happened.

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    • Chel Owens April 27, 2022 / 10:49 am

      Life’s not a Disney movie. 😀 Kev and I only ever had each other, but kept sneaking off to make out. Our impatience was also a no-no.

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  5. Frank Hubeny April 27, 2022 / 6:04 am

    Good reminder: “Those who are chaste are morally clean in their thoughts, words, and actions.”

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  6. John W. Howell April 27, 2022 / 1:24 pm

    I always respect those who take any kind of vow seriously. If one is part of something that requires certain behaviors and the participation is voluntary then those behaviors should be followed. I respect your stand within the LDS community.

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  7. CarolCooks2 May 1, 2022 / 8:29 pm

    I am loving the openness of these posts and I deeply admire anyone who has the courage of their convictions…

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    • Chel Owens May 10, 2022 / 10:32 pm

      Almost always, private. If a member of the LDS church commits a major sin like a sexual one or murder or embezzlement…. then s/he has to talk to his or her bishop and then to a council assigned to this task. It’s not like the person is placed in stocks to have rotten fruit thrown at him or her.

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